Dr. AlRoy was quoted in the following publications:
2019
Being Stuck in a Rut, ARISTOS.com, February 23, 2019
www.aristoslifestyle.com/articles/being-in-a-rut
2017
VIDEO: How to Deal with Life's Uncertainties
http://wgnradio.com/2017/12/27/dealing-with-uncertainties-in-life/
2016
VIDEO: Work from Strength - Tools for Building the Life and Career you Deserve
https://slideslive.com/38897439/work-from-strength-tools-for-building-the-life-and-career-you-deserve
PODCAST: Fear of Success, Bruce Hurwitz Presents, March 29, 2016
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/bhp/2016/03/29/fear-of-success
Why We Love that Giddy High of a Credit Card Buy, creditcards.com, July 12, 2016
www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/why-we-love-giddy-high-card-splurge.php
Secrets to a Successful and Long Lasting Relationship, Telemundo, July 5, 2016
www.telemundo.com/el-poder-en-ti/2016/07/05/conoce-los-secretos-para-tener-una-relacion-amorosa-exitosa-y-duradera?image=8104429
(See translated interview below)
Why We Lie About Credit Card Debt, Credit Card Guide, March 25, 2016
2015
8 Tips for Raising a Sensitive Son -Reward Me, P&G, February 7, 2015
https://www.rewardme.in/family/family-living/article/8-tips-for-raising-a-sensitive-son
TV APPEARANCE: Social Media Addiction, Parts 1, Jornal Nacionale, November 9, 2015
g1.globo.com/jornal-nacional/noticia/2015/11/exagero-do-uso-da-tecnologia-preocupa-medicos-e-psicologos.html
TV APPEARANCE: Smart Phone Addiction, Part 2, Jornal Nacionale, November 10, 2015
g1.globo.com/jornal-nacional/noticia/2015/11/pesquisa-conclui-que-redes-sociais-podem-provocar-tristeza.html
Tips to Say Goodbye to Your Children's Toys, Univision, November 27, 2015
http://www.univision.com/estilo-de-vida/asi-se-vive-mejor-familia/tips-para-decirle-adios-a-los-juguetes-de-los-ninos
After Paris and Planned Parenthood; A Fear of the Unknown, U.S. News and World Report, December 1, 2015 (see picture at top of this page)
http://www.usnews.com/news/articles/2015/12/02/after-paris-and-planned-parenthood-a-fear-of-the-unknown
TV APPEARANCE: Last Minute Shopping Causes Anxiety, December 18, 2015
pix11.com/2015/12/18/last-minute-shopping-causes-anxiety-during-the-holidays/
Being Stuck in a Rut, ARISTOS.com, February 23, 2019
www.aristoslifestyle.com/articles/being-in-a-rut
2017
VIDEO: How to Deal with Life's Uncertainties
http://wgnradio.com/2017/12/27/dealing-with-uncertainties-in-life/
2016
VIDEO: Work from Strength - Tools for Building the Life and Career you Deserve
https://slideslive.com/38897439/work-from-strength-tools-for-building-the-life-and-career-you-deserve
PODCAST: Fear of Success, Bruce Hurwitz Presents, March 29, 2016
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/bhp/2016/03/29/fear-of-success
Why We Love that Giddy High of a Credit Card Buy, creditcards.com, July 12, 2016
www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/why-we-love-giddy-high-card-splurge.php
Secrets to a Successful and Long Lasting Relationship, Telemundo, July 5, 2016
www.telemundo.com/el-poder-en-ti/2016/07/05/conoce-los-secretos-para-tener-una-relacion-amorosa-exitosa-y-duradera?image=8104429
(See translated interview below)
Why We Lie About Credit Card Debt, Credit Card Guide, March 25, 2016
2015
8 Tips for Raising a Sensitive Son -Reward Me, P&G, February 7, 2015
https://www.rewardme.in/family/family-living/article/8-tips-for-raising-a-sensitive-son
TV APPEARANCE: Social Media Addiction, Parts 1, Jornal Nacionale, November 9, 2015
g1.globo.com/jornal-nacional/noticia/2015/11/exagero-do-uso-da-tecnologia-preocupa-medicos-e-psicologos.html
TV APPEARANCE: Smart Phone Addiction, Part 2, Jornal Nacionale, November 10, 2015
g1.globo.com/jornal-nacional/noticia/2015/11/pesquisa-conclui-que-redes-sociais-podem-provocar-tristeza.html
Tips to Say Goodbye to Your Children's Toys, Univision, November 27, 2015
http://www.univision.com/estilo-de-vida/asi-se-vive-mejor-familia/tips-para-decirle-adios-a-los-juguetes-de-los-ninos
After Paris and Planned Parenthood; A Fear of the Unknown, U.S. News and World Report, December 1, 2015 (see picture at top of this page)
http://www.usnews.com/news/articles/2015/12/02/after-paris-and-planned-parenthood-a-fear-of-the-unknown
TV APPEARANCE: Last Minute Shopping Causes Anxiety, December 18, 2015
pix11.com/2015/12/18/last-minute-shopping-causes-anxiety-during-the-holidays/
2014
FEBRUARY
"First Crushes Start Sooner Than Parents Think" - Carolina Parent, 2/1/14
"Meditacion Antes de Dormir Hace La Diferencia" - Yahoo Argentina, February, 2014
English: "Meditation Before Sleep Can Make a Difference"
http://ar.mujer.yahoo.com/fotos/meditacion-antes-de-dormir-hace-la-diferencia-slideshow/meditación-antes-de-dormir-hace-la-diferencia-photo-1391096582023.html
APRIL
Mas que bella, atractiva! - Yahoo Argentina, April, 23, 2014
English: "More Than Beautiful, Sexy"
https://pe.mujer.yahoo.com/blogs/siempre-bella/mas-que-bella--atractiva-165200938.html
MAY
"El Miedo Puede Ser Tu Aliado" - Yahoo Argentina, May 7, 2014
English: "Fear Can Be Your Ally"
https://es-us.mujer.yahoo.com/blogs/estilo-de-vida/el-miedo-puede-ser-tu-aliado-211657343.html
Domestic Violence: What Is It? - Achieve Solutions, May 13, 2014
https://www.achievesolutions.net/achievesolutions/en/cvt/Content.do?contentId=1922
Getting Out of A Dangerous Relationship -Achieve Solutions, May 13, 2014
https://www.achievesolutions.net/achievesolutions/en/cvt/Content.do?contentId=10546
Los Opuestos, forman relaciones duraderas? - Yahoo Argentina, May 21, 2014
English: "Can Opposites Form Lasting Relationships?"
https://ar.lifestyles.soln3.global.media.yahoo.com/fotos/los-opuestos-forman-relaciones-duraderas-1400682303-slideshow/los-opuestos-forman-relaciones-duraderas-photo-1400682223147.html
Tiene miedo al amor? - Yahoo Argentina, May 25, 2014
English: "Afraid to Love?"
http://article.wn.com/view/2014/03/25/Tienes_miedo_al_amor/
El adulterio, retos y realidades - Yahoo Argentina, May 27, 2014
English: "Adultery: Challenges and Realities"
https://es-us.mujer.yahoo.com/fotos/el-adulterio-retos-y-realidades-slideshow/el-adulterio-retos-y-realidades-photo-1401223739862.html
JUNE
Los beneficios de ser introvertido - Yahoo Argentina, June 18, 2014
English: "Benefits of Being An Introvert"
https://es-us.mujer.yahoo.com/fotos/los-beneficios-de-ser-introvertido-slideshow/los-beneficios-de-ser-introvertido-photo-1408397908229.html
SEPTEMBER
¿Contratarías a un abrazador profesional? -Yahoo Argentina, September 17, 2014
English: "Would You Hire a Professional Hugger?"
https://es-us.mujer.yahoo.com/blogs/estilo-de-vida/%C2%BFcontratar%C3%ADas-a-un-abrazador-profesional-211023307.html?page=all
NOVEMBER
Why Are We So Down About Our Physical Appearance? -Mama Marathoner's Tuesday Tips, November 20, 2014
http://mamamarathoner.com/2014/11/20/tuesdays-tips-why-are-we-so-down-on-our-physical-appearance/
DECEMBER
Mitos y verdades sobre el desorden bipolar -Yahoo Mexico, December 5, 2014
English: "Myths and Facts about Bipolar Disorder"
https://mx.mujer.yahoo.com/blogs/tusalud/mitos-verdades-desorden-bipolar-173826232.html#more-id
Why Letting Your Kids Get Bored is Good for Them -P&G Everyday, December 17, 2014
https://www.pgeveryday.com/family-life/parenting/article/why-letting-your-kids-get-bored-is-good-for-them
Why Fighting in Front of Your Kids May Be Good for Them -P&G Everyday, December 22, 2014
http://www.pgeveryday.com/family-life/parenting/article/why-fighting-in-front-of-your-kids-may-be-good-for-them
2013
NOVEMBER
"For Vietnam Vets, It's Good to Hear, 'Welcome Back Home." - The Epoch Times, 11/17/13
http://www.theepochtimes.com/n3/355198-for-vietnam-vets-its-welcome-home/
DECEMBER
"Here's How to Succeed in Your New Year's Resolutions" - AM/NY, 12/26/13
http://www.amny.com/lifestyle/new-year-new-you-here-s-how-to-make-2014-s-resolutions-stick-1.6677185
INTERVIEWS WITH DR. ALROY
(Translated from Telemundo Interview)
Know the Secrets to Have a Successful and Lasting Love Relationship
Having a successful and long-term love relationship isn’t easy, but it can be achieved! Try these tips from Dr. Carolyn AlRoy to get on the right track.
Show how much you appreciate your partner
It seems like something super basic, right? Well, New York psychologist Carolyn Alroy warned us that this can become difficult when you have children, because you could start taking the relationship for granted.
Alroy suggests using small friendly gestures, and saying nice things. "Do what you did when you were dating," she suggests, adding that having a consistent day on which you have a “date” could help.
When something’s not working, tell them
"Sometimes we have to express that we don’t agree with what’s happening, " AlRoy says, and she recommends doing it in a respectful and calm manner. A good example: You could say: "I love your parents but it becomes stressful when they stay a long time. Could they come just for the weekend? " You won’t always get what you want, but at least your partner will know that you‘re making an effort to accommodate his/her desires.
Cultivate your own interests
According to Alroy, it’s easy to "merge" with the other, to the point of forgetting that they’re different people, with different interests. Don’t forget to take care of yours! Do it like this: Get together with your friends, take that class you like, or watch those movies that you know your partner would never want to see. Give your partner the time to do the same. So, they'll have something to talk about when they get home!
Don’t overly vent
"It’s important not to dump your frustrations on the person with whom you feel most secure. This is a very common mistake. Be clear who you’re really angry with, and act in accordance with it”. Wait until you calm down and you’ve had time to reflect. Remember that the words you say in full anger and frustration can’t be retracted, and often cause resentment. They don’t lead to good collaboration or mutual agreement. Consider this: "Expressing too many needs at the same time could make the other person feel overwhelmed and unable to process them," Alroy says, adding that "you shouldn’t threaten to leave the relationship unless you really mean it, as this can corrode the trust and your connection".
Stay positive about the other person
According to Alroy, this is the biggest secret for a lasting relationship. "Remember what made you fall in love. Stay open to what your partner says. Take time to connect ".
Choose your battles
Love conquers many things, but there will always be those small, quirky habits of your partner that nearly drive you out of your mind! PsychCentral suggests carefully choosing which discussions matter the most, and which ones could or should be avoided. For example…Do you really want to argue over the toothpaste cap? Or do you prefer to reserve your energies to talk about the future, children, finances and other key issues? It’s easy to get carried away by small dilemmas, so try to avoid fights over trivial matters.
Don’t hide your needs
Many times, we put ourselves in second place, behind the needs and desires of the other person. We could leave our career to raise children without really wanting to, or relocate to support our partner’s career goals. Before making these kinds of decisions, think about whether what you’re potentially giving up is important to you or not. If it is, find a way to communicate it to your partner, and if possible, find a middle ground.
ARTICLES BY DR. ALROY
How to Talk with Your Kids About Tragedies
by Carolyn AlRoy, Psy.D.
In light of recent tragedies reported in the news, such as the Boston Marathon incident, I wanted to give parents some ideas about how they can talk to their children about these events. While I do work with children and their parents, the suggestions below do not constitute therapy or counseling, and are not a substitute for therapeutic intervention. But hopefully they will be educational and helpful.
Children of all ages are generally very perceptive. School aged (6-11 years) children are no exception. They pick up tension in their caregivers, and it can make them anxious. They want to feel safe.
First of all, do an emotional check-in with yourself. How are you feeling after the Marathon, and how is it affecting you? Sometimes, people don't realize until they stop and think how they may be feeling. Seek out emotional support, and talk to a friend if you realize that you are sad, afraid, anxious, guilty, lonely, or regretful, and certainly if you are overwhelmed by these kinds of feelings. Sometimes engaging in a little extra self-care (e.g., making your favorite food for dinner, meditate, soak your feet in epson salts) can help.
Next, turn off the television. News channels tend to replay video clips, and repeat "news," even if it is not providing new information. This may exacerbate anxiety and fear of the unknown in you. It can also cause upset feelings in children who may be watching. In addition, your child is certain to be aware of your feelings, and this can be very upsetting and fear-inducing for them. This was particularly a problem during 9/11, when footage of the planes hitting the World Trade Center towers aired every few minutes, putting stunned viewers in a trance, and even very responsible parents were caught unaware.
Notice if your child appears to be sad, upset or afraid. Some schools make a point to address potentially upsetting news events. But also remember that sometimes, children get misinformation from their friends, or misinterpret the information that they get, believing that they are in danger. Bringing up the topic may provide an opportunity to connect with your child and correct misunderstandings.
If you want to start a discussion with your child, mention that some people were hurt at the Boston Marathon. Then ask your child what he or she may have heard about that. School aged children may or may not respond to open ended questions, in the way that older children or adults are more likely to. Children may be curious or confused and want to know about what happened. Keep it simple. It's best not to over-explain, or provide complicated answers to their questions. But you also don't need to have all the answers.
If you're not sure how to answer their questions, you can say, "I don't know," and talk as calmly as possible about precautions you and your family or community are taking to ensure their safety. If you are very anxious about the unknown, try to calm yourself down before you have this conversation. We can't control everything in the world, and that's just reality.
Be sure to ask them about their feelings. You may have to name the feelings - "Are you happy, sad, angry, afraid, lonely, guilty?" School aged children will not be able to reflect in the sophisticated way that teenagers can, but they may be able to identify their feelings, and tell you where in their body they feel bad or uncomfortable (e.g., my tummy hurts).
Often it's best to simply reflect their feelings back to them. For example, "you are sad that some runners were hurt." While engaging with your child, if you notice that he or she is particularly sad, it's ok for you to show a little sadness too, just as you would be empathic to an upset friend. However, better not to allow sadness to overwhelm you, because it might get in the way of being emotionally available to them. Children sometimes need extra hugs and attention when they are upset.
This is also a great opportunity to allow kids to talk about their opinions. School aged children can be action oriented, and may be inspired to do something constructive, such as take up a collection for victims of a crime. If possible, offer support and encouragement to them, and any concrete help that they might need. Maybe this is a project that you can do together, or help them do with friends.
(Translated from Telemundo Interview)
Know the Secrets to Have a Successful and Lasting Love Relationship
Having a successful and long-term love relationship isn’t easy, but it can be achieved! Try these tips from Dr. Carolyn AlRoy to get on the right track.
Show how much you appreciate your partner
It seems like something super basic, right? Well, New York psychologist Carolyn Alroy warned us that this can become difficult when you have children, because you could start taking the relationship for granted.
Alroy suggests using small friendly gestures, and saying nice things. "Do what you did when you were dating," she suggests, adding that having a consistent day on which you have a “date” could help.
When something’s not working, tell them
"Sometimes we have to express that we don’t agree with what’s happening, " AlRoy says, and she recommends doing it in a respectful and calm manner. A good example: You could say: "I love your parents but it becomes stressful when they stay a long time. Could they come just for the weekend? " You won’t always get what you want, but at least your partner will know that you‘re making an effort to accommodate his/her desires.
Cultivate your own interests
According to Alroy, it’s easy to "merge" with the other, to the point of forgetting that they’re different people, with different interests. Don’t forget to take care of yours! Do it like this: Get together with your friends, take that class you like, or watch those movies that you know your partner would never want to see. Give your partner the time to do the same. So, they'll have something to talk about when they get home!
Don’t overly vent
"It’s important not to dump your frustrations on the person with whom you feel most secure. This is a very common mistake. Be clear who you’re really angry with, and act in accordance with it”. Wait until you calm down and you’ve had time to reflect. Remember that the words you say in full anger and frustration can’t be retracted, and often cause resentment. They don’t lead to good collaboration or mutual agreement. Consider this: "Expressing too many needs at the same time could make the other person feel overwhelmed and unable to process them," Alroy says, adding that "you shouldn’t threaten to leave the relationship unless you really mean it, as this can corrode the trust and your connection".
Stay positive about the other person
According to Alroy, this is the biggest secret for a lasting relationship. "Remember what made you fall in love. Stay open to what your partner says. Take time to connect ".
Choose your battles
Love conquers many things, but there will always be those small, quirky habits of your partner that nearly drive you out of your mind! PsychCentral suggests carefully choosing which discussions matter the most, and which ones could or should be avoided. For example…Do you really want to argue over the toothpaste cap? Or do you prefer to reserve your energies to talk about the future, children, finances and other key issues? It’s easy to get carried away by small dilemmas, so try to avoid fights over trivial matters.
Don’t hide your needs
Many times, we put ourselves in second place, behind the needs and desires of the other person. We could leave our career to raise children without really wanting to, or relocate to support our partner’s career goals. Before making these kinds of decisions, think about whether what you’re potentially giving up is important to you or not. If it is, find a way to communicate it to your partner, and if possible, find a middle ground.
ARTICLES BY DR. ALROY
How to Talk with Your Kids About Tragedies
by Carolyn AlRoy, Psy.D.
In light of recent tragedies reported in the news, such as the Boston Marathon incident, I wanted to give parents some ideas about how they can talk to their children about these events. While I do work with children and their parents, the suggestions below do not constitute therapy or counseling, and are not a substitute for therapeutic intervention. But hopefully they will be educational and helpful.
Children of all ages are generally very perceptive. School aged (6-11 years) children are no exception. They pick up tension in their caregivers, and it can make them anxious. They want to feel safe.
First of all, do an emotional check-in with yourself. How are you feeling after the Marathon, and how is it affecting you? Sometimes, people don't realize until they stop and think how they may be feeling. Seek out emotional support, and talk to a friend if you realize that you are sad, afraid, anxious, guilty, lonely, or regretful, and certainly if you are overwhelmed by these kinds of feelings. Sometimes engaging in a little extra self-care (e.g., making your favorite food for dinner, meditate, soak your feet in epson salts) can help.
Next, turn off the television. News channels tend to replay video clips, and repeat "news," even if it is not providing new information. This may exacerbate anxiety and fear of the unknown in you. It can also cause upset feelings in children who may be watching. In addition, your child is certain to be aware of your feelings, and this can be very upsetting and fear-inducing for them. This was particularly a problem during 9/11, when footage of the planes hitting the World Trade Center towers aired every few minutes, putting stunned viewers in a trance, and even very responsible parents were caught unaware.
Notice if your child appears to be sad, upset or afraid. Some schools make a point to address potentially upsetting news events. But also remember that sometimes, children get misinformation from their friends, or misinterpret the information that they get, believing that they are in danger. Bringing up the topic may provide an opportunity to connect with your child and correct misunderstandings.
If you want to start a discussion with your child, mention that some people were hurt at the Boston Marathon. Then ask your child what he or she may have heard about that. School aged children may or may not respond to open ended questions, in the way that older children or adults are more likely to. Children may be curious or confused and want to know about what happened. Keep it simple. It's best not to over-explain, or provide complicated answers to their questions. But you also don't need to have all the answers.
If you're not sure how to answer their questions, you can say, "I don't know," and talk as calmly as possible about precautions you and your family or community are taking to ensure their safety. If you are very anxious about the unknown, try to calm yourself down before you have this conversation. We can't control everything in the world, and that's just reality.
Be sure to ask them about their feelings. You may have to name the feelings - "Are you happy, sad, angry, afraid, lonely, guilty?" School aged children will not be able to reflect in the sophisticated way that teenagers can, but they may be able to identify their feelings, and tell you where in their body they feel bad or uncomfortable (e.g., my tummy hurts).
Often it's best to simply reflect their feelings back to them. For example, "you are sad that some runners were hurt." While engaging with your child, if you notice that he or she is particularly sad, it's ok for you to show a little sadness too, just as you would be empathic to an upset friend. However, better not to allow sadness to overwhelm you, because it might get in the way of being emotionally available to them. Children sometimes need extra hugs and attention when they are upset.
This is also a great opportunity to allow kids to talk about their opinions. School aged children can be action oriented, and may be inspired to do something constructive, such as take up a collection for victims of a crime. If possible, offer support and encouragement to them, and any concrete help that they might need. Maybe this is a project that you can do together, or help them do with friends.
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JOURNAL ARTICLES:
AlRoy, C. (1998). Dream workshop for mentally ill chemical abusers: a therapeutic intervention. The Psychotherapy Review2(3): 114-120.
AlRoy, C. (1998). Predictors of condom use among college students. Manuscript submitted for publication.
O'Leary, A., Jemmott, L.S., Suarez-Al-Adam, M., AlRoy, C. and Fernandez, I. (1993). Women and AIDS. In S. Matteo (Ed.) American Women in the Nineties (pp. 173-192). Boston: Northeastern University Press.
AlRoy, C. (1998). Predictors of condom use among college students. Manuscript submitted for publication.
O'Leary, A., Jemmott, L.S., Suarez-Al-Adam, M., AlRoy, C. and Fernandez, I. (1993). Women and AIDS. In S. Matteo (Ed.) American Women in the Nineties (pp. 173-192). Boston: Northeastern University Press.